Thursday, July 22, 2010

You Deserve It (And You'll Be Better For It)


By Kelly Council

Stress is a huge factor in limiting the romance in a relationship. Most of the Top 6 reasons people are not having sex (see the last post below) are stress-related ~ either these factors cause stress or are caused by stress.

A huge reason why so many are stressed is because of a lack of time, too much to do, and an overwhelming array of demands and obligations.

Most of us know by now that we cannot fully take care of others and other things unless and until we take care of ourselves first. Finding ways to de-stress and relax are critical to our entire well-being ~ mentally, physically and spiritually.

Being in a relaxed state of mind is also a key element of a fulfilling sex life, especially for women.

Finding time to spend with or on yourself can affect your well-being. Taking a time-out can ensure there are fewer break downs, such as stress, or worse yet illness. Take a hot bath, read your favorite book, take the time to listen to some favorite tunes, or better yet, spend an evening with your friends.

Brown Bag Party offers a perfect opportunity to get together in a relaxing, comfortable environment with friends. Spending an evening at home getting pampered with your friends gives everyone a chance for much-needed girl talk and sharing.

Brown Bag Party now offers Pamper-Me Spa Parties. These G-rated parties bring friends together to relax, laugh, be pampered and renew connections with friends you may not have seen in a while due to hectic demands.

Like a traditional Brown Bag Party, guests come together in a friend's home to party. You'll see our amazing line of high-quality Spa, Bath, Body and Massage products and be able to try them out.

There is a dress code for Pamper-Me Spa Parties, but no one ever complains. You and your guests must dress in comfortable clothing that bares your legs from the knees down. Another requirement is that you and your guests should not shave for at least 2 days before the day of the party. No one ever complains about that one either.

We'll soak your feet in your choice of one of our Scented Bath Salts, then smooth our Sensation Shaving Cream on one leg and regular shaving cream on the other. We'll try both out and shave both legs, then spray on some of our Aftershave Mist and Body Dew After Bath Oil Mist for protection. Then we'll pamper our hands with our Rainbow Sorbet Skin Refiner and Radiance Body Lotion, pamper our feet with our Radiance Body Butter, enjoy a "mini" massage using one of our many massaging tools or oils, and finally realize just how long it's been since we've paid a bit of attention to ourselves.

You deserve it, and you'll be better for it.

Visit my website at to see Brown Bag Party's entire product line, where you can also shop online if you are not interested in hosting a party. In addition to our Spa line, we offer more intimate romance products, as well.

If you would like to schedule a Brown Bag Party Pamper Me Spa Party or any other theme party, give me a call toll-free at 877-922-7123, message me at or complete our online form on our website here.

Brown Bag Party is also seeking Independent Consultants Nationwide. Romance and spa parties are HOT! To learn more about what Brown Bag Party can do for you, visit to learn more.

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Friday, March 19, 2010

Top 6 Reasons People Aren’t Having More Sex

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Waiting until all the conditions are right to have sex is counter productive.  It’s like waiting to go to the dentist until  your tooth stops hurting.

If you visit the dentist before there is a problem, chances are there won’t be a problem to start with.  If you wait to go until you have a toothache, you might need to have a cavity filled.  If you wait until after your tooth stops hurting, you may need some serious help to save the tooth – if it can be saved at all.

Wow.  I never thought I’d compare sex to going to the dentist.  The point is to stop waiting until that perfect moment to have sex.   Sex improves your physical, mental and emotional health on many different levels.  It decreases risks of cancer and heart disease, especially in men.  Besides that, it feels good and can be some of the most fun you could ever have.  Read the Health Benefits of Sex and you’ll be amazed at what a healthy sex life can do for you!

Top 6 Reasons People Aren’t Having More Sex

No Partner
Do it solo until you do find a partner.  Masturbation is a healthy outlet and while it doesn’t carry all the benefits of sex with a partner, it still has some potent benefits that you wouldn’t get any other way.

No Time
Make time.  People make time for what’s important to them.  Make having sex something that’s important to you and stop using the excuse that you are a victim of your schedule.

Too Tired
Many of us are over-scheduled to the point that we are sleep deprived.  This is a scheduling error.  Re-prioritize your time so that you have more time to rest.  Take turns with the kids in the evening so that you can both take a 20 minute nap after work.  Or, have sex earlier in the day when you still have some energy.
Get creative and do what you need to do in order to feel more rested.  Not just for sex, but for your health and happiness as well.   Stop playing the victim in your own life, you do have choices.  Choosing to pursue a better balance in your life to have energy for something as important as sex is something you can do if you really try.

Not in the Mood
The funny thing about sex is that if you start doing it when you aren’t in the mood, you’ll find that somewhere in the midst of it, you’ll become in the mood.  Plus, “Sexy is as sexy does.”  If you are having more sex you’ll naturally begin to feel more “in the mood”.  Get sex toys, sexy lingerie, watch sexy movies, whatever you need to help feel sexier and get yourself in the mood.  If it can help create a stronger bond between you and your partner, it’s worth it’s weight in gold.

For the single people, it can help you find a partner as you become more attractive when you are in tune with your own sexual nature.  Really.  I had a friend that would masturbate before hitting the clubs and was like a total babe magnet, on nights that didn’t happen, no one paid attention.  Try it for yourself!

Body Image Issues
You’d be surprised how many people aren’t having sex because they don’t feel good about their bodies.  Maybe you are one of them.  Start using sex as a way to get back into shape.  Your partner will be happier, you’ll be happier and having sex is a most excellent way to get into shape.  Oh – and your partner all ready knows what you look like, so stop trying to hide from them.   Chances are high that they will love being your sex workout coach!

Not Happy with My Partner
Whether you are not happy with your partner in the bedroom, or out of it, this is the biggest reason many people aren’t having more sex.  Define what it is that you are not happy with your partner about and get it resolved.  If you aren’t having more sex with your partner because you are not happy with how you and your partner “Do it”, then show and tell them exactly what you need for them to feel sexually satisfied.  Communication is the key and chances are your partner will be willing to help you if you are open about your needs.

If it’s because of issues outside of the bedroom, address those too and make sure you aren’t with holding sex from your partner as a way of punishing them.  Seek outside help if you need to.  Start having sex while you work through the issues.  A huge number of the couples I work with noticed that the problems outside of the bedroom were easier to work through, or went away on their own, as they proceeded to put their sexual relationship as a top priority.

Don’t let prejudice, shyness, or ignorance keep you from experimenting sensually with your partner.  Look at it as a relationship saving, possibly even life saving event, that the more you do, the better benefits you get personally and as a couple from it.  Get started on a more sexual lifestyle today.

NOTE: For more information about boosting your sex life, contact Romance Specialist Kelly Council or visit our website at


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Sunday, February 14, 2010

How to Re-Ignite Intimacy While Balancing Your Kids

People say it all the time... Kids change everything.

The hardest part about having children is the sheer wealth of time, emotion and energy you invest in them. Don’t doubt for an instant that your children are worth it, but there is a new type of stress that your relationship will undergo as you transform from couple to parents.

Parents lose sleep, parents are always busy, and there is always something for parents to be doing. Parents rarely get to sleep in and in some cases, rarely get to go out anymore.

If you discover that you are spending less and less time with your spouse and that your romantic gestures have been reduced to a half-wave as you pass the coffee in the morning, then it’s time to re-ignite the intimacy in your relationship.

It’s a lot easier than you might think it is, because you were a couple before you were parents.

The first thing to remember about being a couple is that couples need quality time together and that begins with setting aside time for each other that isn’t about work, bills, household chores or your child.

If your infant is too young or you aren’t comfortable with going out for a long period of time, make plans for a date evening at home. As soon as the baby is down for the night or their longest sleep cycle – four or five hours – share a nice dinner, either ordered in or prepared together and watch a movie or just talk.

Don’t worry about the dishes, the laundry, and the work that you brought home from the office – those four or five hours are for the two of you alone. Turn off the phone and let your friends and family know that this is a 'don’t show up' night.

Remember love tokens – those little gifts of affection that you used to give each other? Do that again.

If you both work all week, take turns giving the other one a morning to sleep in and breakfast in bed on the weekends. If you like to write love notes, leave them for each other to find.

The most important thing to re-igniting romance in your relationship is to remember – you love this person and their smile is what you are working for.

So, pick up a single carnation or a box of their favorite candies or even just a movie that you’ll enjoy – be thoughtful, be creative and most of all, remember to be in love.

Also consider bringing products into the bedroom that help re-ignite intimacy and bring back a sense of fun and adventure. Also, for women relaxation is key for romance, sexual connections, and her sex drive, too.

A massage oil, Love Glove massaging mitt, and a vibrating bullet can transform a little free time into a memorable, relaxing evening.

A Hearts of Fire is also an excellent choice for use with a massage oil. A Hearts of Fire is a hot heart that heats up on demand. A small disk inside a liquid-filled heart can be popped to ignite the heart and instantly heat it up to about 130 degrees for up to an hour. Hearts of Fires are portable, reusable (simply boil for about 10 minutes, and have 100s of other uses besides romance in the bedroom, like aches and pains, headaches, cramps, and an instant hand warmer, as well as even for the kids, such as with their earaches or stomach aches.

Visit my website for more ways to re-ignite the romance and passion in your relationship.

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Friday, February 12, 2010

Does Your Relationship Need a Shot in the Arm?

By Kelly Council

Not many long-term relationships survive without a few bumps in the road. When you've been in a relationship for a while, there are bound to be ruts and periods where romance may be a little lacking.

There are dozens of ways to Renew the Romance in your relationship, and I'm here to provide you tips for bringing your party passion and boosting pure romance with your partner.

Romance home parties are an excellent way to give your relationship a shot in the arm! Romance home parties are an easy way to open the door to fun, as well as to foster communication with your partner.

Just booking a romance party gives you an opportunity to have a conversation about romance and your desire for renewing some of the closeness you two once shared.

Romance home parties are just like our moms' Tupperware parties, except a whole lot more fun. You'll schedule a date with a romance home party consultant, create a guests list, provide your consultant with your addresses, and don't forget to talk about your party to all of your friends.

The night of your romance home party, you will provide some light refreshments and get ready to be treated like a Queen.

Brown Bag Party, the fastest-growing romance home parties company in the industry, offers classy, sassy, educational, and best of all, FUN, evenings for you and your friends.

Unlike most romance home parties companies, Brown Bag Party offers couples and co-ed parties, which enables partners to share the fun and educational experience together. This is an excellent opportunity to learn more about yourself and your partner's bodies, needs, desires, and potential issues that may exist.

Brown Bag Party also offers a great way to get the girls together for a fabulous Girls Night Out. Your choice. After all, it's your romance home party!

If you're not yet convinced, one more thing for you to consider about hosting romance home parties is the fact that with Brown Bag Party, you'll earn a free shopping spree. When you host a qualifying home romance party with us, you will receive 20% of the party's retail in free product of your choice. You only pay shipping and sales tax. You can also purchase some of our exclusive Hostess specials, too.

Contact us today to schedule your romance home party. It will be a night you'll never forget!

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